#CurrentlyObsessed | Long Boots and Short Dresses

Every season I get obsessed with a concept and find multiple ways to rock a wardrobe combination. Currently, I’m all about mini dresses and over the knee boots. 

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Every season I get obsessed with a concept and find multiple ways to rock a wardrobe combination. Currently, I’m all about mini dresses and over the knee boots.  Which for me is a change because I normally rock a longer hemline on the account that I am short waisted.

Being short waisted is a nice way of my butt sits up really high which means my skirt will appear appropriate in the front and the full monty in the back. Which is a common dilemma for us Tulip shaped girls (Find out more about our body type here)  Is this you too? Continue reading “#CurrentlyObsessed | Long Boots and Short Dresses”

Curls Popping | My Hair Care Favorites

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I’ve been rocking protective styles for about 3 1/2 years to ease the transition of growing out my hair. Growing out my relaxer wasn’t intentional it just sort of happened (with the strong encouragement of my hairstylist.) This summer I got obsessed with achieving the perfect wash n go, twist out, and roller set. I got so many questions about my hair on social media that I decided I would share a few of my product and hair tool favorites.

Detangle and Make It Count

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Detangling is an essential step if you want to achieve any textured style because it reduces frizz (well at least for my hair texture anyway). It also helps you to maintain a style. I detangle during the pre-shampoo, shampoo, deep conditioning phase, as well as during styling. I love detangling my hair with the ultra smooth detangling comb by Cricket  this comb is infused with coconut oil. Which sounds ridiculous, I know, but I detangled with it once and refuse to use another comb to detangle with any other comb when my hair is wet.

Every hair blogger on YouTube will tell you that you need a Denmen detangling brush and they’re accurate, it an essential. I also like applying curling puddings, creams, and leave in products with this duo multi-use detangling comb from Hot Tools. 

Look you don’t need all of the detangling tools. Most of my tools were purchased under trial and error. I like using different tools for different things. Use what you have until you want to try something else just don’t skip thoroughly detangling.

Pre-Poo, Thermal Protection… For What?

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When I say I was not here for pre-shampoo I mean it! For what? I didn’t understand the big deal about doing anything to my hair before shampooing. Well, I have been proven wrong, once again in life, I was dead wrong. The added moisture is key for improving elasticity which is your hair’s ability to stretch without breaking.

Who knew shrinkage is good for you? Thermal Wonder by Kera Care is of GOD, do you hear me! It’s a pre-shampoo treatment that is packed full of ingredients that help your hair during a blowout. (My blowout lasted a full three days in the summer heat. I just need  fall temps to cool down for real) In all honesty, I use this pre-poo even if I don’t plan on straightening my hair because it melts tangles away.  The whole Thermal Wonder line is the bomb!! You may want to add it your collection if you’re a straight-natural.

Since we are on the subject of thermal protection diffusing your hair with a blow dryer is not direct heat so there is no risk of heat damage. I still like to add some protection before drying my hair. Chi Keratin Silk Infusion gives my hair shine and protection from heat tools. Just keep in mind a little goes a long way which makes up for the fact that it is on the pricer side. If you’re a smart shopper you can often find it at TJ Maxx.

Word to the wise diffusing always gives me the full fro volume that I personally love.

The Big “O” (The L.O.C. Method)

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I get confused when it comes to which oil has what properties and which ones work for my hair.  I like a product that did all of the guesswork for me, Mielle’s  Mongongo Oil Pomade to Oil is perfect on wet or dry hair I apply it to my hair after I spray my hair with leave in conditioner.

It initially looks like a thick pomade but after you rub the formula in your palms it transforms into a silky oil. It leaves my hair soft and shiny for several days after wash day.

Don’t Get it Twisted .. or Do

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I now know why none of my previous twist outs never reached their full potential. I never used a product that was for twist outs. I used curl cream, hair milk, curl gels none of the products ever promised me a moisturized twist set.

After I bought Camille Rose Almond Jai Twisting Butter I had an ah-ha moment. Duh, I was judging products effectiveness on promises they never claimed they could deliver. After I wash and condition my hair I don’t need much more than this creamy twisting butter that smells like vanilla frosting.

Lots of Wash but Not So Much Go

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I thought that I didn’t like wash n go styles. I just felt like I didn’t have the hair texture that would allow me to just wash and well go. Here’s the deal if you just transitioned or just started rocking your natural texture after months of protective styles you may not be familiar with your curl pattern yet. It’s ok just keep going it gets better but you may want to work with your hair a little more.

I have finally found a product that gives me the best curl definition Aphogee’s Curl Definer . It plays no games. I used it in the C step of the L.O.C. method (Leave in Conditioner, Oil, Curl Cream). Not only do I get definition but the curls last for days.

Like I said lots of trial and error. The more I style my hair the more fun I have with it but you’re talking to a dork who actually enjoys wash day. If you want to get technical I can’t tell you what hair type I am nor do I care. I just use what works for me and watch lots of YouTube.  So you’ve had fair warning.

I’m always searching for the perfect products.  I am a product juinkie if you can’t tell. What hair care items are you digging?

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The Essential Maxi Dress for Summer

Who doesn’t love a great maxi dress? It’s figure flattering, it’s easy to wear, and they are so versatile for day or night. Dresses are my summer staple. I am always on the hunt for a lightweight and wrinkle resistant maxi dress when I am packing for an impromptu weekend getaway. So it must have been kismet when GCGME.com reached out to me about their selection of fabulous maxi dresses.

 

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Who doesn’t love a great maxi dress? It’s figure flattering, it’s easy to wear, and they are so versatile for day or night. Dresses are my summer staple. I am always on the hunt for a lightweight and wrinkle resistant maxi dress when I am packing for an impromptu weekend getaway. So it must have been kismet when GCGME.com reached out to me about their selection of fabulous maxi dresses.

I am in love with their selection but this black and red rose print maxi dress was my personal favorite because I wanted a maxi dress that also could work for a night out. Maxi dresses are great for summer concerts, summer weddings, and of course brunch!

Here are some Maxi Dress Essentials to keep in mind when you are shopping:

  • Length matters! Remeber you can’t spell MAXI without MAX. Pass on any dress meant to be a full-length dress that doesn’t hit you at your ankle.
  • Stay away from prints that seem juvenile or teen-ish. There are a variety of prints that are universal and good for all ages but choosing a print that looks “child like” can age you. You want to capture your youthful energy without looking like you’re trying to keep up with the tweens.
  • Fabric matters if you are shopping for an event where you will be outside shop for maxi dresses made of a breathable fabric like cotton, a lightweight knit. or linen.  Save your polyester blend dress for the evening when the sun is setting you’ll thank me later.

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Dress c/o of GCGME.com all opinions are my own.

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Professional Pretty Conference Recap

It’s amazing how when you live in a city that feels as small as Cincinnati how you can miss out on what other dope women having going on. (I mean you think we’d all already know each other) As a business owner and career professional, I can get tunnel vision and forget that an integral part expanding my brand is growing my personal network. This past weekend I attended the Professional Pretty Conference with over 100 entrepreneurs and career women.

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It’s amazing when you live in a city that feels as small as Cincinnati how you can miss out on what other dope women have going on. (I mean you think we’d all already know each other) As a business owner and career professional, I can get tunnel vision and forget that an integral part of expanding my brand is growing my personal network. This past weekend I attended the Professional Pretty Conference with over 100 entrepreneurs and career women.

Professional Pretty Conference

The Professional Pretty Conference is the brainchild of Morgan A. Owens who’s mission is that women can be “powerful and pretty”.  She’s inspiring women to empower themselves beyond just being a pretty face. After launching two successful brands, she is sharing her success and providing women with the opportunity to expand their networks. The full-day conference gave attendees access to valuable information to help further their careers and personal brands.  The day was flexible and allowed you to choose from a variety of workshops, attend panels with industry insiders, and shop from local brands.

What I enjoyed most was interacting with women who were all at different points in their careers. It was a great opportunity to encourage women who are just starting in their fields and gain knowledge from more seasoned professionals. I can only see the conference growing next year.

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Suit: SimplyBe ( Jacket, Pants), Sneakers: Adidas 

I rocked a suit and sneakers. I was feeling very Tracee Ellis Ross via her Instagram feed. I wanted to fit the laid back professional feeling of the day. It was also nice to attend an 8-hour event and my feet not hurt halfway through the day thanks to my cloud foam Adidas!

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If you’re not in the Cincinnati tristate area I encourage you to go out and expand your network. Focusing on your career can start to feel isolating at times and it’s always good to be around like-minded people who can relate to some the same issues you are facing.

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Midwest Sweet and Natural Fest Recap

. My first festival of the season was the Midwest Sweet and Natural Festival held in Washington Park this past Sunday. If you are a hair product junkie like me and you are always on the hunt for the right potion to make your curls pop this is a can’t miss event. 

Midwest Sweet and Natural Fest

After 600 days of winter, I am so excited to finally start enjoying some of the spoils of warm spring weather. My first festival of the season was the Midwest Sweet and Natural Festival held in Washington Park this past Sunday. If you are a hair product junkie like me and you are always on the hunt for the right potion to make your curls pop this is a can’t miss event.

You can find everything from curl pudding, handmade soap, accessories, and I even found some bomb satin hair bonnets (think Tami Roman a la Bonnet Chronicles). This year’s festival was packed with even more vendors, hair demonstrations, a fashion show, and a beard bar!! I also scored lots of hair product samples that I can’t wait to try so stay tuned for some natural hair product reviews.

Midwest Sweet and Natural Fest

Midwest Sweet and Natural Fest

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9 Spring Dresses That Your Curves Will Love

Plus Size Off the Shoulder Dress with Ruffle Sleeve

Spring is starting to feel like a guy who didn’t call me back after a first date. What happened? I thought we had a good thing going! If you’re anything like me your excitement for warmer weather is tied to dress season coming back in full effect. I wanted to share with you 9 plus size dresses that you will want to snag now while it’s still cold outside.

9 Plus Size Dresses You’ll Want to Wear Now

The word flattering gets a lot of flack but in my opinion, knowing a dress is universally flattering makes it easier to wear. A dress that fits you well is perfect for days that you need to grab something chic to wear and head out the door. These dresses are easy breezy no-brainers. I love the fact that all of these dresses have flexibility and are perfect for brunch but are best in your carry-on for vacation.

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Is “Confident” the New Codeword For Fat?

I’m not sure if I’m paranoid or if I have yet to master the art of accepting a compliment. I have this sneaking suspicion that confidence is a code. A disguise lingering in the comments section lurking under “WERK” and the handclap emojis praising your latest Fashion Nova Curve purchase. Up until recently, I was willing to dismiss comments like “I wish I had that kind of confidence”, as innocent, but not all praises of confidence are created equal.

Is "Confidence" the New Codeword for Fat?

I’m not sure if I’m paranoid or if I have yet to master the art of accepting a compliment. I have this sneaking suspicion that confidence is a code. A disguise lingering in the comments section lurking under “WERK” and the handclap emojis praising your latest Fashion Nova Curve purchase. Up until recently, I was willing to dismiss comments like “I wish I had that kind of confidence”, as innocent, but not all praises of confidence are created equal.

 

I stumbled across a video of The Alabama Honey Beez drill team that my friend shared on social media.  Her caption read “These girls are getting it!” It immediately made me stop and watch it. I was filled with excitement and envy because I wish so badly that had some rhythm. When I noticed the caption from the original source of the shared video it read “I wish I was this confident.”

 

I didn’t want to take a defensive stance but there lies a certain level of truth in any initial reaction. It made me ask myself “What is so confident about a dance team?”  Who would voluntarily try out to be on a dance team if they couldn’t, well, dance? Is ability, skill and practice confidence or talent? The vibe that I caught from the caption that offered a proclamation of confidence was shady!

Shady in the sense that someone would make the assumption that big girls can’t dance. As if, they were saying if I was that big I wouldn’t be dancing let alone be on a dance team. Like this group of talented women need some proverbial confidence cookie. This video is not the only time I see confidence being used as code for “Oh look at you. You’re fat but look at you trying”. I always want to reply to “confident” comments with “take your confidence and….” (you know the rest)

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People are quick to say things like “I admire your confidence” after you post a picture of yourself on vacation in a bathing suit. What’s so confident about swimming on vacation? Please tell me. I think a lot of this confidence is people just doing what they genuinely want to do and it doesn’t make them any more confident than the next person. Fulfilling a desire to do anything isn’t confidence. Confidence is firm trust and you don’t have to trust anything to do what you want to do. I often want french fries from Mc Donald’s. I don’t trust Mc Donald’s I just like french fries regardless of the lingering consequences.

As a blogger, I experience blatant misuse of the word confidence all the time. People admire my confidence to have style or wear a bodycon dress. I know some people genuinely do lack confidence for their own personal reasons but when people say I admire your confidence to my face with a twisted mouth and tone riddled with pity, I know what they mean. I’ll pass on their confidence cookies. I’d rather eat Mc Donald’s, it’s less toxic.

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Like I said, this could all be just my imagination running away with me, but I don’t think it is. Your mother told you if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all. Most people translate that into if you don’t have anything nice to say find a way to rephrase it so you can still say something mean. If you have experienced the tail end of unwarranted “confidence” just remember your living your best life. Well if your best life is eating secret fries maybe not but at least you’re doing what you want to do!

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It’s Been A Long Time | Seriously Single

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I haven’t been on a date since I turned 30. In May, I will be 33. I’d love to be overly dramatic and say I’ve never been on a real date but I’m sure all of my ex-boyfriends would find that highly offensive. I mean a lot of guys have incredibly bad planning skills and an inability to go beyond the scope of “What do you want to do?” Like I said before I am being overly dramatic. Since I know the plot of this story I can even say I’m deflecting.

Back to the point… I haven’t been on date since I turned 30

Let’s add an asterisk to this statement and say that I am not counting any of the times I shared a meal with a booty call and or friend with benefits to create a vibe that felt less like a sexual transaction. (That may have only happened about 3 times since I’ve turned 30).  I’ve been busy.  I started a small business, I am a freelance writer, a stylist, and carefree Black girl trying to adult on a regular basis. I have a long list of stuff going on here.

After my last failed relationship I just wasn’t in the mood to date. When we broke up I played George Michael “Freedom” on a loudspeaker and took a victory lap around my house. I was excited to be single, to say the least. I will admit that I am a little closed off, a low key introvert, and apprehensive of strangers. I’m pretty positive that plays a factor in my slow paced dating life. Maybe I am just waiting to have a conversation with a guy and afterward think I could talk to him again.

There is a chance the time has come to get out of my comfort zone. I keep seeing memes that say everything I want is outside of my comfort zone *insert eye roll*.  I’m downplaying my need to make myself more available because when I got a quiet moment alone to myself I did something unthinkable and downright stupid.

Last Saturday night would have normally been a work night for me. A night where I would have been interacting with other people and engaging in light networking.  This Saturday is different I had just dropped my 16-year-old daughter off at her friend’s house. Her friend happens to live in a neighborhood that I spent a lot of my late foolish teens and miserable early twenties in. If all of George Strait’s exes live in Texas then all of mine live in this suburb. (Again with the dramatics it’s like two).

It did make me think of the guy who was sorta something like my ghetto high school sweetheart. Gosh, I loved him. He was goofy, absent minded, criminal minded, strangely endearing and at the time really cute. My ghetto high school sweetheart wasn’t a bad guy.  He was just always getting arrested. He was the kind of guy where no matter how much you cared for him and tried to steer him in the right direction he was still going to pick wrong. No matter how much we cared about each other we were on different pages in two different magazines. If I was Essence he was a full years subscription to High Times.  It could have never worked. I know because we tried several times. Give me a break. I was twenty.  He felt like a great love of my life so we broke up and made up five or six times.

After I dropped my daughter off at her friend’s house I took the scenic route home. I drove past places where we used to kick it, I even stopped to pump myself some gas at the gas station where I frequently had to wait for him to buy a single cigarette several times a day. (He wasn’t the brightest.  He was funny, cute and good at other things). It felt innocent enough. I thought about the last time he called looking for me at my mom’s house.   It was just a few years ago. We always kept in touch even when he got himself arrested and jailed. Just as friends, mostly. I came home and my sister told me that he called several times and the last time she had to tell him that I didn’t live at home anymore.

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I hadn’t seen or talked to him since. Something in me wanted to know where he was so when I got home I did what any normal person would do, I googled him. He had been arrested a couple of months ago.  I don’t know why I wasn’t satisfied with that information but it was quite in my house, no one was bothering me asking me to take them to the mall or to cook something to eat, so I continued. I just kept internet stalking until I found myself on one of those people finder websites and I just kept plugging in information about him and the green progress bars keep going from 0 to 100 %. I just kept feeling like I was closer to an answer although at this point I don’t really remember what was in question.

At the end of all my searching, I pretty much found out what I already knew.  He had been arrested a lot, an address and a phone number that may or may not have been disconnected. (I wasn’t crazy enough to call it). By the time I had come back into reality I realized that this had all gone too far. The quiet time that I had been craving had just bit me in the ass because one ride through a neighborhood just caused me to go on some deranged people search for an old friend.  Especially since I know it’s better that we don’t communicate.

As busy as I’ve been, the moment I got time to myself I squandered it on nothing. On something that I already knew I could have gotten three loads of laundry done. I need to get out and be less apprehensive about strangers because I just let the past seduce me into a really ghetto episode of The Twilight Zone.

I should have felt this coming on.  Just a few weeks ago I was looking for Christmas ornaments and found a box of pictures that included a picture of my ex-fiance. I remember looking at it noticing the sweatshirt he had on.  It was his favorite. A few days later on my way to work, I saw him walking down the street wearing that same sweatshirt. What are the freaking odds!

All of my exes are exactly where I left them doing all of the same things they always did.  Hell, I should know that because none of them have social media profiles.  Nothing is going on in their lives that they can even remotely embellish upon. I mean they can’t even stunt on the ‘gram.

I’m guessing that this was a teachable moment from the universe. Well more like a toll bridge because it cost me. The universe just told me to quit looking back because nothing that you want is back there and that will be $34.50.

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The Plastic Surgery I Never Got

Why I Never Got Plastic Surgery

If a picture says a thousand words then 1000 words still don’t manage to tell the full story. I think when people see fashion bloggers they assume that bloggers must clearly find themselves very attractive. I mean, we do share lots of pictures of ourselves in snazzy outfits so I can see how people make this assumption. Pictures don’t actually talk, people do and it’s always in television interviews that we find out that the women who we find beautiful and awe-striking don’t always feel as beautiful as we perceive them to be?

I talk about body confidence, body acceptance and loving yourself “as is” a lot.

I talk about body confidence, body acceptance and loving yourself “as is” a lot. I stand behind it one hundred percent because acceptance is the first step to healing.  Self-doubt is a wound from an injury inflicted by several outside sources. I know this because I am always actively participating in my own healing process. It can seem like I have the highest self-confidence in the world but I don’t.

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For as long as I can remember I have loved getting dressed up. Every Sunday my mom would get my sister and I dressed and we would go to church. Every dress always felt like a cloud of femininity that I could float on forever. We would get so many compliments at church and people would stop and look at my sister and me to tell us how pretty we looked in our dresses. I ate it up. I believed every compliment. How could I not believe them? The dress was pretty and I was pretty in it and my mom worked so hard to ensure that we looked like angels. Everything supported my belief that I was pretty.

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I don’t think I ever felt unattractive until I went to school and boys would tell me that I wasn’t pretty.  Which was news to me because everyone at church thought I was pretty? The more they told me that I wasn’t pretty the more I paid attention to what boys considered attractive. I wanted to know what was catching their eye. I started to realize that the girls who were being praised at school for being pretty had hair that was much longer than mine, not always but sometimes their skin was lighter and their eye color weren’t brown.

As I got older my research continued.  It even carried over into my own interest like being an avid magazine enthusiast. I have been reading magazines for as long as I can remember. Hell, I had a subscription to Highlights magazine at age 8. By the time I started reading magazines like YM, Teen Vogue, and Seventeen while searching for the latest trends and pictures of boy bands, I noticed what boys noticed about women. Their faces, their bodies and what would make one woman more attractive than the next. I started realizing that on the rare occasion a Black model was featured in a magazine, however, her face didn’t look like mine.  I didn’t have a nose like Tyra Banks or hair like Ashanti. I also noticed that the girls who boys found attractive at school had similar qualities to these women.

The sad part about all of this is it wasn’t like all the boys found me unattractive or that I was getting the worst of the taunting. I just wanted more options. I wanted the ability to have my pick of who I wanted to date. I didn’t feel like the ugliest girl in the room but I felt like I knew who had the advantage. I knew where I ranked. I was average. I had what most of all the Black girls had; brown eyes, short to medium length hair and a wide nose. A nose that was clearly Black. A nose that didn’t lend to a question like “what are  you mixed with?” A nose that made it clear both of my parents are Black.

A nose that didn’t lend to a question like “what are  you mixed with?”

I didn’t have a problem with being Black I just wanted more attention. I just wanted to date the most popular boy on the Varsity football team and I thought having a slimmer nose would give me that option. My nose became the one thing that I would change about my body. My nose was hindering me from being my most attractive self. I mean I would never be able to have “good hair” but I could get a weave. I could never have hazel eyes. I could, however, pay a doctor to take a little off the side and give me a nose that looked a little bit more like Halle Berry’s.

Why I Never Got Plastic Surgery

Thank God, for MTV  True Life: I Got Breast Implants. After seeing the bad side to plastic surgery I started doing my own research about rhinoplasty. I found out that slimming my nose on the outside could also narrow the airway inside. I have enough issues breathing as is with my allergies.  Maybe my nose wasn’t worth the temporary attention of the cutest guy on the football team.

As I age I get more and more happy with the decisions I made not to alter my nose. My nose looks like my family’s nose. I am happy to look more like my mother than Halle Berry. Now that I’m in my thirties, I realize that my nose would have only been the start of altering myself because there is always a quality that you won’t have. Something else will become the “it” factor like big butts are now, but tomorrow it will be something else. I can’t change every time I feel inadequate. I can only figure out what is making me feel like I am inadequate so I can deal with the feeling instead of feeling the need to change my body.

I advocate for women to take the time to ask themselves, “Is this what I want because I want it?”

I advocate for women to take the time to ask themselves, “Is this what I want because I want it?” If the answer is yes then I support her right to make that choice but if the answer is no then I implore her to find her own unique beauty that is beautiful because she says it is! I blog for many reasons and one of them is so that I can be a face in the crowd that feels familiar. Proud of a face that may be deemed average by some but it will be familiar to someone else because it is reminiscent of features that look like theirs.

Women, Black women, skinny women, fat women, women with short to medium length hair, brown eyes, wide noses, and flat asses are beautiful. I’m rooting for you. I’m in your corner and I love you!

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A Look Back at 2017

When I reflect on this past year I realized that I need to practice gratitude and live in the moment more. I am a results-oriented person so if I don’t get my desired result I tend to feel like I missed the mark. Pushing myself to always be my best self has made me gloss over major wins that I had this year. There comes a time to stop being humble and step up and accept your reward.

So as this year comes to a close I am taking my wins and sharing them with all of my readers. I hope that claiming my wins also helps you to look back over your year and uncover your own wins that you did not celebrate.

 

The Lit Ball

My year started on such a high note being honored by my good friend January York. Her annual ball empowers and recognizes women’s creative and personal triumphs. I got to connect with women that I will forever have a connection with. I was so humbled to be honored and just to be in a room filled with beautiful women who are trying to impact the world around them.

 

The Curvy Fashionista Style Expo

I had the time of my life at the TCF Style Expo. I got to meet so many other awesome curvy women, bloggers, and influencers. The expo was more than just a time to shop. The panels and workshops that really started conversations and created open forms for women to open up about their style journeys really proved to me that size inclusion is necessary. Our efforts for inclusion will affect how women see themselves for years to come.

 

Collaborations

I got the opportunity to work with several great brands like JORD Watches, JustFab, and Elvi (by far one of my favorite new plus size brands).

 

My Favorite #OOTD’s

 

 

Behind The Scenes

As a co-owner of BOLD Creative Solutions, I am always involved with creative professionals in the greater Cincinnati area. Whether we are consulting with an individual or planning events we love keeping our ear to the ground and keeping Cincinnati creative and cool.

 

 

Working with Eloquii

I can’t tell you how excited I was to find out that Eloquii was opening a pop-up in Easton Town Center in Columbus, Ohio. When they reached out to me to plan an in-store event I was thrilled to say the least. I wanted to do more than just plan another sip and shop I wanted to help women who needed help getting a fresh start. Empowerment is about lifting each other up so reaching out to Dress for Success Columbus was a no-brainer for me.

Styling women is something always gives me so much joy. Personal style is something that helps everyone feel powerful. I am so glad we got to extend that power to curvy women in need! I am happy to say that now Eloquii will be working with Dress for Success as a partner.

 

Did I mention I Co-Wrote and Co-Created a Web Series???

The Lounge web series premiered this December. It was almost 9 months in the making before it premiered. I was so excited to collaborate with the other writers and executive producers of the project. Be sure to check out all 4 episodes of the first season on YouTube

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All Around Cincinnati

I love covering events in Cincinnati. I love to show people what is happening in my Cincinnati. I love my hometown and showing all of the cool and diverse events that happen in my neck of the woods is always a joy! Thank you so much to the Cincinnati Art Museum, Renika J. Smiley of Girl Talk,  Pink Tulip Club, and The Midwest Sweet and Natural Festival.

 

When I look back over 2017 was a win! It may not have always felt like it but if I live in gratitude I will begin to understand that moving forward is always a success.