The Liebster Award!!!

 

The Liebster Award was created for bloggers, by bloggers. It provides the opportunity for bloggers and readers to connect and discover other blogs.

I am excited to announce that I was nominated for the Liebster Award by Jeanne De Clue of FinesseCurve

Thanks you so much Jeanne!

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Questions from Jeanne

How would you define your style?

My style is based on how I feel and I feel different everyday. Some days I feel boho chic other days I may feel glamours.  I feel like no one thing defines me but I lean on classic silhouettes because it makes for easy dressing.

Who are your style icons?

I feel like I don’t have one icon so that makes this question hard to answer. If I have to narrow it down to one person it would be my mom she is an amazing seamstress. She has taught me everything I know about fashion. Some kids watched cartoons on Saturday morning and I watched Fashion TV on E! with my mom.

                                                                                                                                   

What is a social issue that you are passionate about?

I’m passionate about the state of women. We have so much power by merely existing. We set the standard for everything across the board. We need to harness our power and come together. We need more control of our image. I hope to inspire women to be comfortable within themselves and make the life they want no matter where they are in life.

What is your favorite style trend this season?

Fur! I have always wanted a fur coat and since it’s on trend it’s available every where. I want a stole, a coat, and a muff! I promise not to wear them all at the same time.

What is your go-to date night look?

This questions makes me laugh because I would need to go on a date in order to have a go to outfit. I do habitually buy dresses with the thought “this is a great dress to go on a date.” A dress that hugs in all the right places is my go to for every occasion.

What was it that made you want to start blogging?

I wanted a platform to express my creativity. I would blog and then fall off constantly. It wasn’t until I ran across a link for Gabifresh that made me feel like I should stick with blogging on a consistent basis.

What is one of your goals as a blogger?

To create community with the women who read my blog. As a black woman in America I feel like someone put me in a box without my consent. I want to reach more than just black women but I definitely want to use my voice as a black creative to inspire other women.

What is your favorite piece of clothing in your closet?

An orange dress that I got for Christmas a few years ago. I call it my art gallery opening dress. I just see myself somewhere sophisticated in it.

What is your favorite social media site/app?

Instagram is my favorite. It’s such an awesome platform I can follow my friends and Williams Sonoma!!

Which blogger do you admire the most?

I love Gabifresh, Mr Kate, Miss Kris, FeedNClotheMe, FinesseCurve, Quirky Brown Love, CurvyFabulousity there are just too many to name!

I am nominating the awesomely talented Januarie York of A.M(used.D)

Questions:

  1. How would you define your style?
  2. Who are your style icons?
  3. What is a social issue that you are passionate about?
  4. What is your favorite style trend this season?
  5. What is your go-to date night look?
  6. What was it that made you want to start blogging?
  7. What is one of your goals as a blogger?
  8. What is your favorite piece of clothing in your closet?
  9. What is your favorite social media site/app?
  10. Which blogger do you admire the most?

The Rules:

  1. Post your award to your blog.
  2. Answer the questions that you were given from the person who nominated you.
  3. Nominate a few new bloggers you’ve discovered.
  4. Create 10 new questions for the nominees.
  5. Thank the blogger who nominated you and post a link to their blog.

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3 Not So “Ugly” Sweater Looks For The Holidays

I actually love “ugly Christmas sweaters” they just don’t function beyond Christmas. The holidays bring more reasons to celebrate and with that more reasons to look put together. Am I the only one imaging that I am one part of the perfectly styled couple in every December issue of Essence magazine?

I’ve curated three-holiday sweater looks that can take you from day to night.

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This Tassel Cardigan has officially made it into my everyday wear. Here I styled it with a boho feel by paring it with flared leg jeans. I elevated the look with a jeweled statement necklace to bring it all together.  It’s the perfect casual look that you can wear at a laid back office party or hosting a lively game night at home.

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This Asymmetric Knitted Sweater is all purpose. Who knew a turtleneck could be so sexy. If you are busty like me and are concerned with looking top heavy pair this look with a statement necklace to bring the focus back up to your face.

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You can take a basic everyday sweater and wear it out at night. I paired this  Crop Knit Check Sweater with a tulle skirt for an evening look. I love the preppy look of this sweater with this playful skirt. This sweater ran big if you want true cropped sweater look I would order a size down in this sweater. If you’re not into tulle this can also work with sequin skirt. Remember the rule for mixing basics with evening wear is:

basic+evening wear+ evening accessories= chic

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DIY Left Over Station

You may never know why your cousin never brings more than his appetite to your family’s Thanksgiving dinner. You do know that he will leave with his fair share of aluminum foil covered styrofoam plates. If you can’t beat them join them!

This left over station isn’t just for what I like to call the “plate makers” it’s for you as a host as well.After dinner everyone is searching for grocery bags, paper plates, and foil. This to-go station places everything in a central location so people can pack up with ease at the end of the night.

The supplies you will need:

Plastic food containers

Disposable cutlery

Napkins

Disposable cups of your choice

Grocery bags or bag of your choice

 

Keep in mind that my station is staged. I wanted it to photograph well but you can use what ever you have one hand to create this station. Also think outside the box when it comes to food storage. I love the idea of purchasing plastic food storage containers in lieu of allowing people to leave with paper plates. You may already have some containers you don’t need. Check restaurant supplies who will have large quantities of food storage options at great prices.

This will be a great resource and will keep you out of the kitchen at the end of the night. Your guest can help themselves while you enjoy the rest of your evening.

Use what you already have in your house to make the station festive. You  can repurpose baskets and vases to display seasonal decor. I designed sign and printed it to fit 4 X 7 frame. I added fun messages to plain brown paper gift bags from the dollar store.

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How to Have a Stress Free Thanksgiving

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Are you stressed out just thinking about preparing your house for the biggest meal of the year. Thanksgiving is the Olympics of entertaining. Preparing for guest, cooking a feast, and maintaining your sanity is a full-contact sport.

 

If you are hosting the holiday this year you probably feel like you just won the lottery and your prize is feeding the distant relatives you dodge all year. Never fear the  Wize One is here!

I’ve hosted and attended Thanksgiving and I finally have a good flow of enjoying the holidays. I reached out to my Facebook friends and asked if they had any Thanksgiving Woes. Surprisingly I am not the only one who experiences extended family social anxiety

Running Through Thanksgiving with Your Woes! 

Q: I hate being single with no kids and a small family that rarely celebrates the holidays together. It makes me into some sort of charity case for all of my friends. I know they mean well but, I am ok, with having an off day. How do I let them know without being mean?

A: The hostess in me wants to invite you over just to show off my Martha level entertaining skills. If these are just invitations to tag along and be a plate maker then your friends need to understand that if they don’t like dealing with their own family on a holiday, then why would you?

The best defense for the unsolicited invitations is to make your plans sound intentional and fun. “Thanks for the invite girl, but I ordered Thanksgiving from Whole Foods. I plan on eating it and binge-watching Sex and the City.” I am jealous at the thought of you vegging out while I overwork myself in the kitchen.

Q: How do you deal with the same adults who never contribute anything to the meal? They eat everything and make plates to-go before dessert is even served.

A: Nothing stops crass guests like formality. Set up an address book and encourage everyone to sign it. (You know for the memories!!) Next year send out invitations to Thanksgiving and encourage your guest to bring a dessert or covered dish.That way you have made your expectations clear.

As far as this year goes…

If it is at all possible don’t serve dinner on paper plates and keep your aluminum foil out of sight. Set up a to-go station with inexpensive plastic food storage container (bonus portion control!) People will be less inclined to leave with several plastic containers.

It may cost a little more but just think about the cost of paper plates and aluminum foil. Every sheet of aluminum foil is .40 cents and every paper plate is .50, cents. Just imagine yourself handing everyone .90 cents as they leave your house. It also sends a message to the “plate makers” just because it’s Thanksgiving doesn’t mean I’m the soup kitchen.  If your hosting with a group family members you all can split the cost of the to-go station or bring containers they don’t mind giving away.

Q: How do you handle being around relatives that are never around because they have made out well for themselves? They have traveled the world and have their dream job now they questions everyone about their accomplishments and make the rest of the family uncomfortable. 

A: Try approaching them first by asking them about themselves and then quickly redirect your attention to somewhere else like the kitchen. At dinner sit them at the kids table and then they can ask the kids what they aspire to be, it’s less offensive.

Q: What do you do when your family is spread out across the country and everyone can’t be together during the holidays?

A: It’s hard not being together during the holidays. Sending everyone the same holiday card can be generic. Add some fun spice in your holiday wishes by doing a card exchange. Send a card and a photo by mail to a family member and give instructions on who to send a card to next. You could also include a small paper gift in the card as well. Sending warm wishes during this season will really be a wonderful surprise in the mail in the midst of a pile of bills.

Q: How do you split time between families? There is just not enough time in one day.

A: Stat early and be realistic. Call everyone to let them know if you will be in attendance for the meal or just coming by for a quick visit. Just try not to skip them on the next holiday.

Q: How can I get my home together so It feels welcoming? Especially since I can’t do as much as I normally do this year.

A: Thanksgiving is not just about the food. If you can’t give a lot in the kitchen remember to fill your home with the smell and the sounds of the holiday. Boil some mulling spices or bake some pre-made cookie dough to fill your house with warm smell.  Lay a few throw blankets on the couch to encourage snuggling. Use what you have on hand to set the table. Even frozen pizza serves well on a well set table.

Q: What is a good way to deal with family shade/tension?

A: Break the ice in a fun way and a play game that everyone can participate in. Don’t be afraid to serve a signature cocktail you may need a drink. If you don’t feel comfortable drinking in front of your older relatives serve a mixed drink in a pitcher and keep the bottles out of sight. Keep the pitcher in the kitchen and share the love with those who would be interested in a cocktail. 

Q: How can I stop being teased about bringing pumpkin pie? I know I’m black and I’m supposed to bring sweet potato but I like it!

A:  Bring an awesome topping to go with the pie. Spike your Cool Whip with a few teaspoons of spiced rum! No one will deny whip cream with a kick!

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If You Read One Article About Marilyn Monroe Vs Dorothy Dandridge Read this One

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This post should be called let me tell you how tired I am of seeing this meme! I have tried to ignore this meme, but I feel it was poking at me every time it’s shared. It’s rubbing me the wrong way, and it’s not even directed at me. As a woman of color, I feel like my identity is always being questioned.

If I chose to straighten my hair, then I don’t accept my natural beauty. If I decide to wear a lighter hair color, then I’m trying to be white., If I like Marilyn Monroe, I don’t know any historically pivotal black actresses.

 I am not just wearing a Marilyn t-shirt I’m  representing the fact that How To Marry a Millionaire, Some Like it Hot, and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes are some of my favorite films.  Just because I like these films does not mean that I have not seen or enjoyed Carmen Jones, Foxy Brown,  or Anna Lucasta.

I had to calm down to realize the meme wasn’t even directed at me.  I decided to investigate my anger and breakdown the concept of  Marilyn vs. Dorothy. I have a fond appreciation for “Old Hollywood Glamour” and I just assumed anyone rocking a Marilyn t-shirt had the same affinity for vintage reprints. It dawned on me that maybe there are women of all races just mindlessly purchasing Marilyn Monroe memorabilia.  Women that may simply find her image appealing and aren’t necessarily fans of her work or the era.

I want to defend the consumers of color who are just buying because they saw a face they liked. Since when did being a woman of color rob you of your right to be mindless. Mindlessness is just that; it’s the space you allow yourself not to over to analyze why you like whatever is you prefer. In all honestly, you may identify with the image of Marilyn Monroe beyond the fact that she’s white.

The question of why are black women not wearing Dorothy Dandridge on their shirt kept being asked. My only reply was where do I find one? Marilyn shirts are everywhere from Target to rag bins all around the country. I can honestly say I have never walked into a store and seen a shirt with an image of Dorothy on it. I don’t think black women have a real choice when they are shopping. For that, I am saddened that we don’t have the opportunity to choose between the two.

I put out a challenge on Facebook for someone to find me a t-shirt and one of my friends directed me to an Etsy shop. I was excited to purchase the shirt but in my mind, I thought this isn’t the same. As someone who is into all things vintage, I have to search for most of the things I like. I’m also a plus size girl I have to search for clothes that fit period. Although a Dorothy shirt is in existence, it still felt unavailable. It didn’t feel as accessible as Marilyn. For consumers who are mindlessly purchasing Marilyn for what she is and less of who she is what would provoke them to search for Dorothy? (other than this meme that I am not fond of) Maybe the shaming is necessary because outlets like Vintage Black Glamour aren’t viral.

I see a lot of black men posting this Marilyn vs. Dorothy meme. I think that may have ignited my initial anger. We never culturally question black men’s  pop culture interest.  A man can be a Star Wars fanatic,  idolize Scarface, or quote The Godfather, and their loyalty to their racial identity is never questioned.  As far as I am concerned if you are a Black man concerned with the available images of beautiful black women for purchase, start a company. Sell the shirts and I will buy them from you directly. I would love to see more vintage memorabilia.

The reality is we are African Americans despite the racial inequality unless you were raised on a commune there is a great chance you were exposed to or influenced by  American culture. If you so much as ate potato salad on the Fourth of July you are participating in American culture. It’s impossible to say you don’t enjoy anything.

As a Black woman, I am just trying to be! It’s hard enough being young and having diverse interest especially the ones that don’t reflect the interest, my peers. How do you know the awareness level of a Black woman you pass by wearing a Marilyn shirt? Unless you know them, personally you don’t know. I’m all about awareness and educating each other, but our social culture has a way of educating by shame.

I am inspired by women and not just the ones who look like me. From what I know and have researched about Marilyn she was a woman in search of being seen beyond her surface. She aspired to be taken seriously and viewed as a real talent, not unlike Dorothy Dandridge. I realized that to be a champion of all women I have to cheer for all women.  I plan to cheer even if it causes others to question where I stand. I don’t need a soapbox to prove I am proud of my culture because I am both a woman and black,

I choose to wear the images of three women Marilyn Monroe, Dorothy Dandridge, and Frieda Kahlo.  I love all three of them for different reasons. Women of color are bold, exciting, sexy, smart and funny. We are diverse in quality, and all deserve equal face time on a t-shirt that is available for people to mindfully or mindlessly enjoy!

My heart aches not just for the little black girls who don’t know or can’t find Dorothy. My heart aches for all the women who can’t find images of women who look like them in the media. 

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“I am beyond your peripheral vision. You might want to turn you head”- Ani Di Franco

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DIY Halloween Masquerade Mask

It’s all a masquerade. It feels like the adult party scene has transitioned from throwing costume parties to masquerades. Every where I look there’s a masquerade being thrown. I love a good reason to dress up and get creative! It seems like all the costume shops are selling the same assortment of masks.

My DIY masquerade mask is easy and you only need a few items to take your mask from basic to elaborate. Making your own mask opens your options you won’t be limited by what masks are available in the store. You can pick your own color combinations and go wild!

For this project you will need:

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Cardboard Mask (the paint and glitter adhere to cardboard better than plastic)

Acrylic Paint

Craft glue

Ribbon that is  1/2 nch wide  or wider

Rhinestones

Hot glue gun

Feathers

Glitter or glitter glue

4 Paint brushes 2 bristle, 1 foam, 1 fine tip brush

Clear coat sealer (like Mod Podge or spray clear coat)

Step 1

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Select your paint colors and measure how far you want the first color to go on your mask. It doesn’t have to be perfect since you will be blending the two colors together for an ombre effect. Paint the first color with a bristle brush on your mask.

Step 2

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With another clean bristle brush paint the second color all the way to the edge of the mask. You want the paint to still be wet when you move on to step three.

Step 3

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Blend the two colors together with a foam brush. You may need to pick up paint from both colors since acrylic paint dries fast. Add small amounts of paint to the dry foam brush and just blend until you have your desire fade look.

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With a fine tip brush out line the eyes of your mask. You can add swirls and extra designs if desired. Just use light brush strokes to create swirls.

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For the easiest application use a glue bottle with a thin nozzle. Outline the lines of your design with the glue. Dump the glitter over the glue and shake the excess off. Once the glue has dried you can use a dry brush remove any stray glitter.

Step 6

mask8The best way to apply the feathers is to practice the placement before you glue the feathers together. Once you have decided how you want the feathers to lay glue them together. Place a drop of hot glue at the base of the steam and place the next  feather on top. You can use a paintbrush handle to press the feathers into each other to ensure they are together. Once you have all the feathers together glue the rhinestones at the base of all the feathers. Let it all dry for about 20 minutes.

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Choose where you want to place the feathers on your mask add a drop of glue and press the cluster into the mask.

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Cut two lengths of ribbon that are long enough to go around your head. You may want to cut a few extra inches so you have enough to tie in a bow. Fold the length in half and push the ribbon through the hole until the ribbon is even on both sides and continue this same process on the other side of the mask.

Feel free to get creative! If you want more feathers or more bling add it where you want it.  The best part is your mask will be one of a kind! 

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DIY| Upcycle Old Jeans Into A Fall Wreath

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The best design lesson I ever learned about fall decor was in church.  You can’t celebrate Halloween at church but you can have a Fall Festival. I love Halloween but I get more design for my money decorating for the fall season. I’m sure there is a disappointed children’s church leader out there thinking this is not the take away wisdom from Fall Festival.”

The thought of taking down my decorations after October just makes me sad. My fall wreath can be displayed until it’s time to decorate for Christmas. How is that for a life hack!

For this project you will need:

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Old jeans or denim remnants

Foam wreath form

Fabric shears

Decorative faux leaves

Optional- floral wire, choice of decoration for the center

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Step 1:

Lay the pants flat and cut the leg from seat. (As if you were making a pair of cut off shorts)

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Cut one inch strips from the bottom of the pants. Cut the seam from the strip. Continue cutting strips until you have enough strips to cover the entire wreath form.

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Tie the strips around the wreath form. Be sure to double knot the strips. (May I suggest binge watching Netflix cause this may take a while)

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Trim the denim ties to ensure the bows are even.

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Remove the faux leaves from the steams. Open a denim tie and secure the leaf by retying the knot.

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Optional Step 6:

I found a wood pumpkin at the craft store. I painted and distressed the wood to give it a rustic look. I attached the pumpkin to the wreath with floral wire. You can use any decorative piece this would also look great with a laser cut wood initial. The wreath itself is basic you can customize it your suit your taste.

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Fall Accessories|DIY Boho Cuff

The 70s are back in a major way for fall. Am I the only one super excited to pull out the suede fringe? Leather, suede and even vegan leather pieces are pricey. The way my bank account is set up I may not get a new jacket until Christmas.

I was cruising the craft store on my lunch hour and saw a bag of leather scraps for $10! Who knew fashion leftovers were so affordable. If you’re fall fashion budget is drying up this DIY is for you! We may not be able to buy the whole cow but a piece of a cow is better than no cow at all.  Never fear my PETA friends this project can work just as well with a nice peace of pleather.

For this project you will need:

Leather and Suede Scraps

E6000 or a very strong super glue

Agate stones or dyed imperial jadper stone (check Joann’s Fabric in store)

Plain brass cuff

Foam paint brush

Fabric shears or very sharp scissors

Marker or pen

not pictured: paper, liquid gilding paint or gold sharpie, small paint brush

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Step 1:

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Take a piece of paper and form it around your cuff being sure to make indentations. Uncrumple the paper from around the bracelet and smooth the paper back out.  Trace lines of the cuff with a marker and cut out the shape to make your own pattern. Leave about a 1/4 of an inch excess when you are tracing the perimeter. You can cut it down to size after but you can never add more leather.

It should look like this when you finish:

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Step 2:

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You can pin your pattern to the suede or you can trace it onto the fabric directly. Cut out the shape. Lay the suede over the cuff to ensure it fits. If it’s a little big just cut it to size.

Step 3:

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Spread  the super glue  evenly onto the cuff with the foam brush. Lay the suede with the right side facing you onto the cuff. Smooth it out to ensure that it is laying flat on the cuff. Allow it to dry for about 30 minutes.

Step 4 (optional):

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I wanted to give the stones some texture. I painted the edges with gold gilding paint. This step is totally optional.

Step 5:

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Apply the super glue to the back of the stone and adhere them to the bracelet. I recommend securing the placement of the stones with a clip or clothes pin. Allow the stones to dry overnight before wearing the cuff.

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“Fashion is about dressing according to what’s fashionable. Style is more about being yourself.”- Oscar de la Renta

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Are You Really an Independent Woman?

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Are you really an independent woman? I posed this question after I had a blunt conversation with one of my guy friends. He said that he had been dating a woman but he didn’t plan on seeing her again. When I asked why he wouldn’t see her again his answer shocked me. He said, “she invited me to lunch and she didn’t pay.”

He elaborated and said,  “I heard Neyo’s song, She Got Her Own and it has me wondering where is that woman at?” I attempted to give him a chance to redeem himself and asked,” how many dates have y’all been on?” He said, “it was our second time going out, but she invited me so she should have paid.” (side eye) I was upset at the thought that one lunch could disqualify a woman from being independent.

Then I realized the concept of being an”independent woman” is irrelevant. Buying your own clothes and paying your own bills is a prerequisite of being an adult not a sacred right of passage. The notion of the “independent woman” started out fun and playful and it somehow morphed into a way of segregating the upper echelon “independents” from the “basics”.

This separation cuts both ways creating a war between men and women. Independence is turning into a check list of qualifications to be seen as worthy. Furthermore, why are finances evidence of independence? All this independent woman propaganda is bordering unhealthy and sabotaging relationships between both men and women.

These are my thoughts on why you shouldn’t be an “Independent Woman”

Because 1999 was 16 years ago!

Destiny’s Child released Independent Women pt.1 16 years ago on the Charlie’s Angels Soundtrack. It was a song written for a movie about three women, fictional women (in addition, that Ne-Yo song is 8 years old). Granted the lyrics are empowering, but isn’t that the point of a girl anthem? If we are still holding on to the ideal of  “independent women” then why aren’t we still shouting the Spice Girl’s “Girl Power”?

The reality is life is a journey you’ll be at different points at different times. Life can’t constantly be picturesque. If the outside world can’t see you climbing to the top it doesn’t mean that you’re not reaching for the peak.

Did Plymouth Rock Land on Independent Women?

Independent women have always existed. Why are we waving our ability to  self sustain like a victory flag? As far as men proclaiming their excitement to encounter a woman who has her own, the jury is still out.

Men can often see money as control, and women who have money can be seen as being potentially controlling. Sometimes men’s keen interest in independent women can be a ploy. It’s a great way to say, “I’m glad you have your own because I didn’t want to offer you any of mine.”

I don’t think all men feel like this; I think it is important to know the difference between a man who is comfortable, and one who is cheap. Some men date for sport. If I was a man, and I wanted to date a different woman every night of the week  I would hope that one of them paid for lunch too. Be sure that when a man is impressed with your independence it’s not just superficial. Sure, he can handle your money, but can he handle your mind too? Your independence is not a dowry.

Independence without a bankroll 

Finances are not the only stipulation to independence. I see financially stable, codependent women all the time.  A life without balance is unstable. Turning your life into a check list is self destructive. What happens when you can’t cross something off your list? What happens if you don’t get married or don’t have kids?  Who will you be if you don’t build a firm foundation in who you are as an individual? (All of those questions need answers)

I’ll tell you who you will be, a person who is constantly in search for the things they want. If you are on a frantic quest to obtain a want, your aggressions may cause you to cut a corners.  You need enough internal reserve to be still and find out what you want. Is being a slave to the things you think you want independence?

You also shouldn’t count yourself out if you are not financially where you want to be. If you are working on yourself you’re headed in the right direction. Being unafraid to walk in your truth is independence.The real question is what are you independent of?  We all need someone and not just in the romantic sense. You need community, a mentor, you may even need a partner.  You don’t need independence you need freedom and there is a difference.

Don’t be afraid to be basic!

Basic is defined as an essential foundation or starting point; fundamental. Meaning you can’t get to the advanced stage of anything without first being basic. The dilemma of the “independents” versus the “basics” is frivolous. Unless you are attempting to advance another woman in the spirit of sisterhood, why call her out on her basic-ness?

Isn’t basic a direct side-effect of ignorance or never having the proper tools to advance. Why are we as women dangling success over each others heads? I believe that it’s because of the “independent woman complex”. If the appearance of having it together makes you desirable and you crave to be desired then success is merely validation. Who better to validate your parking than Prince Charming.

So is success independence or is it another avenue to seek attention? The attention seeking mean girl attitude is not fundamental to any part of womanhood and in-turn not “basic” at all. If you are not offering the next woman a hand up, shut up!

Women are not factory made. You need the opportunity to fall down and get back up again. You need freedom to be who you are and along the way find a tribe of people who support the true you. Being the glamour shot of the perfect woman is feeding into the same propaganda that said a “woman’s place is in the home”.

The notion of the “independent woman” is dated and played out. Your financial status doesn’t make you worthy. Worth is something you determine. Your real goal should be to be a woman so richly diverse that it’s almost impossible to label you. 

“Freed people, free people” – Lena Tome

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Almost Autumn (Fall Lookbook)

Living in the midwest I often see what I like to call “summa outfits”. I didn’t spell summer wrong “summa outfits” are when you have on an item of clothing from every season. Like wearing a winter weight shirt and linen pants. I’m down for juxtaposition but there is an art to mixing and matching items in your wardrobe.

Don’t live in denial it’s almost autumn. Saying goodbye to summer is bittersweet. Saying hello to fall still wearing a summer dress is cold. The best option you have is to transition into the new season so you can look effortlessly appropriate and chic!!!

Living in the midwest I often see what I like to call “summa outfits”. I didn’t spell summer wrong “summa outfits” are when you have on an item of clothing from every season. Like wearing a winter weight shirt and linen pants. I’m down for juxtaposition but there is an art to mixing and matching items in your wardrobe.

Here are my “Almost Autumn” Inspiration Looks 

Welcome Back Flares

Flare leg denim in my opinion is never out of style. I am excited that is on trend because it made it so much easier to find a pair. I’ve got more legs than a bucket of chicken, but even if your short this style will elongate your legs.

Flare leg jeans:Target, Top: Thrifted (Snooty Fox)

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Show Casual Friday Who’s the Boss

Nothing screams casually fine louder than the perfect denim skirt. It’s great for transitioning into fall because you can wear it now with sandals. When the temperature drops you can pair it with opaque tights and booties.

Shirt: JCPenny, Skirt: Simply Be

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In the Army Now

Olive green is my go to color when transitioning. Wearing fall colors is a no fail way to look in season without dying of heat exhaustion. If green is not your color you can also introduce cranberry or rust.

Jeans:Ava and Viv, Top:Ava and Viv (Sold Out), Jacket:Torrid, Shoes:Kenneth Cole, Clutch: DIY 

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