5 Reasons to be Addicted to Seeing Yourself Sexy

June 29, 2015January 7, 201610 Comments

Your only true job is to be attracted to yourself. If you are not attracted to yourself losing ten pound will not help. It’s a temporary fix, you will just find something else to not like.

Seeing yourself sexy is the gateway drug into the ultimate high, self acceptance. How many images have been shoved down your throat of the “dream woman”. I personally know what is like to not feel like a trophy. Society says that men want trophies which I don’t think is entirely true. (Ok, some of them do but that is not your problem).

I have even had conversations with women where they acknowledge that they were not anyones dream girl. In the words of Tamar Braxton, lies you tell! Dreams are essentially made of feelings so whoever you end up with will find satisfaction in much more than they way you look.

Take control of your image and take your own damn picture. Seriously, take pictures of yourself better yet have a professional take them for you.

Theses are my five tips on seeing yourself sexy:

Get a team

Beyonce has a team and so should you. Have your hair and makeup done professionally it will improve the look of your pictures. You can go over the details of what look you are trying to achieve and they can guide you in the right direction. Remember inspiration is free but execution has a price you won’t regret having the pros on hand.

Go Boudior or Go Home!

You don’t have to do bouidor photography to have sexy pictures but it sure as hell helps. It forces you to be nice to yourself because you have to pick what you want the focus to be. When I consulted with my photographer I was clear about what I wanted highlighted and what I preferred to be avoided. That clarity helped the final result and I have pictures that I will forever be happy with. Even on days when I am feeling a little less than foxy I look at my pictures and think, I still got it!

Hold out for your true soulmate

I truly believe meeting a photographer you trust is all based on kismet and their portfolio. When you see the photographer’s work you should see yourself in their picture immediately.

Selfish Phase

Do not wait to take these pictures! Don’t base this decision on anything other than the pure desire to have this moment with yourself. As adults we take professional pictures when we get married, the family Christmas photo, or never. To others this may look vain but this is an affirmation of your dreamy-ness!

Timehop

Post one for the world. It affirms that you feel positivly succlent and sexy. If someone doesn’t like it delete them immediately. Make sure you install the timehop app so that next year you can say yeah I did that!

Provide the images you want to see and it will change the landscape of your mind. You can wait on the media to provide you with body confidence or you can get it on your own. You are free to love and enjoy your body until it turns to dust. I want to see your sexy! Post a pic on instagram and hashtag #seeingyourselfsexy the revolution starts here!

My amazing pictures were taking by Amanda Barbosa of Dayton Boudoir. If you live in or near Cincinnati, Ohio she has an incredible eye and the ability to bring out the best in you.

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DIY Painted Lawn Chair

June 22, 2015July 1, 201616 Comments

Who doesn’t love a free concert, free movie in the park, free free free. I love packing up a cooler full of goodies and gathering with my friends. I keep my lawn chair in my trunk, especially in the summer in the event I find an outdoor shindig.

Sometimes it feels like everyone bought the same chair for $9.99 at Walgreen’s. After a few glasses of wine I usually feel like Dude, Where is My Chair? Spotting your chair at the end of the night won’t be hard with my DIY galaxy print lawn chair.

For this project you will need:

Canvas Lawn Chair

Acrylic Paint

Paint Sponges

Acrylic sealer

(not pictured small paint brush)

Step 1:

Set your chair up outside or indoors with a drop cloth to protect your carpet. Get a paper plate or an old shoe box top and set up your pallet. I used purple, sea blue, fuchsia, and white for the stars. You can choose whatever colors you like to paint your sky.

Step two:

Dip your sponge in the darkest paint first and begin to make random splotches on the chair.

Step three:

With a new sponge dip it into your next color and smudge the paint into the darker paint. (If it doesn’t look good yet it’s okay)

Step Four:

With your lightest color lightly smudge the paint into the other colors. Once you have your desired amount of paint take a dry sponge and begin to blend all three colors. The more you you blend the better!!

Step Five

For the stars, take a dry paint brush and dip it into the white paint. Flick the bristles of the brush so that the paint splatters randomly. Allow the paint to dry overnight.

Step six:

This step is optional but it will make the paint more durable. Spray the chair with acrylic sealer in 3 light coats. Allow the chair to dry for 24 hours.

This project may look complex but it was super simple. The sponges did all the hard work.

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5 Ways Aging Gracefully Changes Everything

June 15, 2015January 7, 201611 Comments

“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she knows.”- Audrey Hepburn

I grew up with women who made adulthood look like a prestigious honor. Every time I hit a milestone birthday I keep waiting for my grand invitation into the club.

I’m actually blessed to have a circle of friends who get better with age. We love the wisdom that comes with getting older. We embrace the changes that come our way and keep it sexy.

Society is selling women a lie when they promote the golden age of being a woman. Most women know your twenties suck. I am finally over thirty and I love it. Getting older is a freaking badge of honor and I plan to wear mine proudly!

My 5 tips on aging gracefully

True Authentic Self

If you don’t know who you are developing into then you won’t appreciate the fact that you’re improving. The biggest lie we tell ourselves is that we haven’t done enough.

The reality is on some level everyone has an achievement. Acknowledge it and get more for yourself. Develop you into the real true you, so when you achieve more the age will just be a number.

Share responsibly

Be stingy with yourself. Be aware of how much you choose to emotionally give to others. We hastily give up portions of ourselves only to realize we have made a mistake.

Attaching yourself to the wrong relationship will drain you and make you feel limited. Feeling limited will make you feel old. (feeling old will make you look old) In the great words of Samantha Jones, “I love you, but I love me more.”

No, is a complete sentence

I had an aha moment when I was watching The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. When Matt Lauer said, “I’m always amazed at what women will do because they’re afraid of being rude.”

Don’t be scared to say what you mean and mean what you say. Doing things you don’t want to do will make you feel stressed and stress causes wrinkles. So if you can’t afford Botox save yourself some money and say no.

Fail, fail, and fail again

Make every attempt to be and do what you want to do. Stop feeling like your time has past and just try. Get in there and do it and if it doesn’t work out laugh about it.

Live Right

My beautiful Aunt Lee turned 100 this year. People asked her for advice on how to live to be 100 years old. She simply said “Live right!”. Take care of yourself mind, body, and soul.

Work on becoming a classic work of art. Somethings never go out of style. You never saw Sophia Loren competing with Madonna and there was a reason for that, she didn’t have to! Despite what the mainstream media promotes you’re never going out of style you’re an exclusive one of a kind jewel.

Love deeply, eat whatever you want, go anywhere you can afford.. and leave your mark every where you go. Age ain’t nothing but a number…

Those Jeans Cost How Much?? |Designer Denim in 3 Easy Steps!

June 8, 2015January 7, 201610 Comments

I can’t lie I dropped out of Girls Scouts after five meetings. Getting ready for an 8 am troop meeting on a Saturday was just too much of a commitment. I was only sad about missing out on the patches!

Photo credit: Nordstrom.com

I was flipping through Lucky Magazine and a pair of jeans with patches caught my eye. That was until I saw the price! I thought, “Hell, I can make that!”. I have been gathering patches since that day and the time has come to DIMDS .(Do it my damn self!!)

For this Project You Will Need:

Iron, Ironing board, Patches, and denim of your choice

Step 1:

Pre-wash your denim before beginning this project. Patches adhere best to clean fabric. Lay your jeans flat to get an idea of how you want to arrange the patches. (If I could do this all over I may have put the shorts on and pinned a few patches on and went from there)

Step 2:

Apply the patches according to the directions. I had two different brands, but the instruction were identical. Place the patch on the fabric with the design facing up. Place a pressing cloth over the patch. (In my case it was some scrap fabric from a previous project) Turn the denim inside out and iron the patch on the reverse.

Step 3:

Allow the patches to set and wait at least 24-48 hours before sporting your new blues! Also, some patches adhere better than others have a needle and thread handy. You may need to sew a few patches to secure them, so they hold up over time.