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Stop Letting VBO Be Your Confidence Killer

If you're anything like me you're wondering, what the hell is VBO? Visible belly outline it's what the girdle didn't pull back. It's taboo and it is keeping you from feeling good in your clothes.

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If you’re anything like me you’re wondering, what the hell is VBO? Visible belly outline it’s what the girdle didn’t pull back. It’s taboo, and it is keeping you from feeling good in your clothes.

After reading Gabi Gregg’s article about respectability, I realized that I am never overly critical of others. I love when a woman has the confidence to leave her house looking good. When it comes to my own looks, I review Facebook pictures like football playbacks.

Is my eye trained to hate itself? I wonder how I would feel about myself if the ideal body image had not been indelibly printed on my brain. This perfect proportion myth that is marketed in promotional clothing campaigns.  I have decided that if I love my body, I plan to embrace my VBO.

 

Here are my three tips on how to overcome your VBO anxiety:

Choose your poison

I balance my media intake and read lots of body positive media. I still read Instyle Magazine and Vogue, but I use them as inspiration and less as a model for how I see myself. My confidence comes from within but seeing other awesome bloggers embrace themselves does reinforce my beliefs.

Let it Go

After you get dressed, don’t let the imperfections get you down. Accept the compliments and ignore the haters. The reality is it’s not your job to have the perfect body. If you had a personal chef, home gym, and Photoshop you would always look good too. You know Beyonce travels with her photographer. Her Instagram feed is being curated better than the Museum of Modern Art!

Smooth it out

There is a fine line between VBO and needing to go up a size. If the dress fits and you feel like a little shape-wear would go a long way, go for it. Have you ever heard the saying “must be jelly because jam don’t shake like that.” If all is smooth, then make the next move. Just keep in mind smooth doesn’t equal flat.

Wear what makes you feel good. Don’t be afraid to try out a new style and don’t let your flaws get you down.

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14 comments

  1. Thank you for this advice! I’ve been worried about my belly for years. I love the dress you’re wearing in the pic. I think you may have given me a little confidence to get something a little sexier this summer. 🙂

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  2. OMG I LOVE this post!!! VBO is the bane of my existence and what my disordered eating feeds off… And thank you for some REAL tips, instead of the same bullshit “just love yourself no matter what” that perfectly proportioned women seem to enjoy telling others so much! You’re amazing! Also, LOVE that white dress!!

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