Stop Letting VBO Be Your Confidence Killer

Stop Letting VBO Be Your Confidence Killer

Who, What, Wear, Plus Size

If you’re anything like me you’re wondering, what the hell is VBO? Visible belly outline it’s what the girdle didn’t pull back. It’s taboo, and it is keeping you from feeling good in your clothes.

After reading Gabi Gregg’s article about respectability, I realized that I am never overly critical of others. I love when a woman has the confidence to leave her house looking good. When it comes to my own looks, I review Facebook pictures like football playbacks.

Is my eye trained to hate itself? I wonder how I would feel about myself if the ideal body image had not been indelibly printed on my brain. This perfect proportion myth that is marketed in promotional clothing campaigns.  I have decided that if I love my body, I plan to embrace my VBO.

3 tips on how to overcome your VBO anxiety:

Choose your poison

I balance my media intake and read lots of body positive media. I still read Instyle Magazine and Vogue, but I use them as inspiration and less as a model for how I see myself. My confidence comes from within but seeing other awesome bloggers embrace themselves does reinforce my beliefs.

Let it Go

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After you get dressed, don’t let the imperfections get you down. Accept the compliments and ignore the haters. The reality is it’s not your job to have the perfect body. If you had a personal chef, home gym, and Photoshop you would always look good too. You know Beyonce travels with her photographer. Her Instagram feed is being curated better than the Museum of Modern Art!

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Smooth it out

There is a fine line between VBO and needing to go up a size. If the dress fits and you feel like a little shape-wear would go a long way, go for it. Have you ever heard the saying “must be jelly because jam don’t shake like that.” If all is smooth, then make the next move. Just keep in mind smooth doesn’t equal flat.

Wear what makes you feel good. Don’t be afraid to try out a new style and don’t let your flaws get you down.

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28 responses to “Stop Letting VBO Be Your Confidence Killer”

  1. These are great tips – thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks for reading!!

  2. These are great tips – thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks for reading!!

  3. Spot On! You should check out my post on ‘the plus size controversy’ http://augfashion.com/2015/05/06/the-plus-size-controversy/
    I love it when women appreciate their curves in all its glory!

    1. Actually Ngozi, I have read your post and enjoyed it!! I am currently following you 🙂

  4. Spot On! You should check out my post on ‘the plus size controversy’ http://augfashion.com/2015/05/06/the-plus-size-controversy/
    I love it when women appreciate their curves in all its glory!

    1. Actually Ngozi, I have read your post and enjoyed it!! I am currently following you 🙂

  5. Thank you for this advice! I’ve been worried about my belly for years. I love the dress you’re wearing in the pic. I think you may have given me a little confidence to get something a little sexier this summer. 🙂

    1. Yes ..go for it!!

  6. Thank you for this advice! I’ve been worried about my belly for years. I love the dress you’re wearing in the pic. I think you may have given me a little confidence to get something a little sexier this summer. 🙂

    1. Yes ..go for it!!

  7. Awesome and inspiring blog. You look absolutely beautiful… VBO and all. Oh, honey I will keep these words in mind every time I get dressed.

    1. Aww thank you for reading!! i will be there to remind you!!

  8. Awesome and inspiring blog. You look absolutely beautiful… VBO and all. Oh, honey I will keep these words in mind every time I get dressed.

    1. Aww thank you for reading!! i will be there to remind you!!

  9. you look FABULOUS! What an inspiring post;)

    1. Thank you so much!!

  10. OMG I LOVE this post!!! VBO is the bane of my existence and what my disordered eating feeds off… And thank you for some REAL tips, instead of the same bullshit “just love yourself no matter what” that perfectly proportioned women seem to enjoy telling others so much! You’re amazing! Also, LOVE that white dress!!

    1. Yes my love Beyonce is deep but who are we kidding here. She not asking Jay to stop and get a picture of her outfit..LOL

    2. Thank you.. Love yourself as is!!! If you want to improve or change that is up to you but the work starts with loving what you got!

  11. Lol…that beyonce comment had me quite tickled…i love how u are turning something that females deem “negative” and making it positive…we need to be more loving to our frames.

  12. you look FABULOUS! What an inspiring post;)

    1. Thank you so much!!

  13. OMG I LOVE this post!!! VBO is the bane of my existence and what my disordered eating feeds off… And thank you for some REAL tips, instead of the same bullshit “just love yourself no matter what” that perfectly proportioned women seem to enjoy telling others so much! You’re amazing! Also, LOVE that white dress!!

    1. Yes my love Beyonce is deep but who are we kidding here. She not asking Jay to stop and get a picture of her outfit..LOL

    2. Thank you.. Love yourself as is!!! If you want to improve or change that is up to you but the work starts with loving what you got!

  14. Lol…that beyonce comment had me quite tickled…i love how u are turning something that females deem “negative” and making it positive…we need to be more loving to our frames.

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